Harness the curiosity of life…


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I have an absolute gem of a blog entry for you all today. The past three months have seen me take a new approach which is going relatively well. Positive energy attracts positive energy I always say.

I was having a casual chat with a very good friend  online. The usual office instant messaging to kill time. What ensued was a mind-blowing conversation that graced my Google chat. This person who might want to remain anonymous has such a beautiful mind and has always been very influential in most of my decisions as an adult. So to really showcase the wealth of knowledge this person possesses, I have decided to copy and paste parts of the conversation for all to see. I will not edit nor will I change a word.

Disclaimer; It’s gonna sound like a whole lot of mumbo jumbo, but stay with me.
So a while back I realised it was one thing to be having negative things happening to you and another thing to just entertain negative things – ie thoughts, people, etc.

After an internal audit of my internal dialogue, I realise that things had to change. You see, your internal dialogue impacts your belief system directly ie. Always thinking you ain’t sh*t will eventually make you end up believing you ain’t shit. The only way to correct both is to change your daily internal dialogue and that’s were daily affirmations come in.
You know the whole “you attract what you think, say and do”, well that’s what daily affirmations help with. Eventually, you repeat them so often that your subconscious believes they are solid beliefs and wah-lah, more positivity etc.

Obviously, this doesn’t work by itself . I realised in general I had to be more mindful about what and who I spend my time on. For example: Twitter has become a cess-pit for nonsense people and their antics, my hiatus during Lent made me realise that to a certain level it was feeding negativity towards me. When I get back on, there is going to be a mass culling session and less time spent on it. Same goes for who I spend my time with, I used to be such a social butterfly – anywhere and everywhere. Nope, that’s not happening anymore. I guess it’s just being more mindful of where I contribute my energies and what energy I’m on the receiving end of.

Ladies and Gentlemen,I honestly feel like I shouldn’t add anymore out of fear of ruining what are some very wise and insightful words.

Harness the curiosity of life… Live… Occupy ALL STREETS…

This is the 12th Hole at Arabella Golf course, Capetown.  Embrace life and celebrate your achievements. Happy Birthday to all March babies.

Over n’ Out…


Occupy ALL …


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G’day to you all….

It’s actually been forever since I blogged and the truth is I just had a sensational spell of writer’s block. Glad that has come to an end now. Lets get right into it.

Occupy all…! From  the “Occupy Movement” that swept the social networking waves a few months back and managed to get a few people arrested and maybe even bruised from all the public demonstrations. Apparently, it’s when individuals get together from the bottom to make a change at the top. For instance, “Occupy Wallstreet” was a noble and valiant attempt at the “poor” 99% in America to get a piece of the pie the wealthy 1% have worked so hard for. From the tone in my poorly scripted  blog, you can tell that I do not subscribe to this foolery. It’s a damn shame that the 1% has the money but that is how life is. You want equal pieces to the pie, you should move to a socialist state or wait for the afterlife. As it stands, you get what you grind for… Hooorah!!

With that preamble, I can start my actual topic of discussion. In December 2012, I was perfectly poised on a chair seated on the balcony watching the sun set doing some reflection of my life. In a nutshell, I sat there and decided I didn’t want this year (2013) to start off with the usual “to do list” “achieve this” or whatever list . I was very real with myself and said I was going to go for it. I WILL OCCUPY ALL STREETS and AVENUES. Every facet of my life. I will give a 110%. Every opportunity…..

Stage 1– I started leading a healthier lifestyle (I am running close to 30 km a week) and subsequently will be competing in the TWO OCEANS MARATHON on the 30th March 2013…. *throws confetti *

Stage 2– I decided to put my career advancement in over drive. I am working smart and working hard with my academics. Some nights are bad, some are even rough but I refuse to be outworked.

Stage 3 – I have decided to stop planning and not executing. I shall focus and go in for the kill. I will fly when I want to , laugh when I want to,  will do what is required of me when I want and it shall be at the cost of a lot of things and people. I am looking out for the star player of this team “Captain awesome himself”

Before I bore you with more words than you were prepared to read. In conclusion, nobody in this world will do you any favours. Life is an individual project and you alone are the difference between mediocrity and sensational. Break barriers and go well beyond your comfort zone. Occupy all…

Over n’ Out…

Life is a process of becoming, a combination of states we have to go through. Where people fail is that they wish to elect a state and remain in it. This is a kind of death.
Anais Nin



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I have aptly named this entry “Wilson” based on a theory I am working on. It is not perfect but by the end of this blog I would have gotten my thoughts and stuff together. The year has started off generally well, I am pushing myself harder than I did last year in pretty much every facet of my life. I want to be a better version of myself and I am desperate to break new barriers with growth. Growth! I love the word…


Now, the Wilson Theory or Wilson Effect is based on the 2000 movie called “Castaway” that has Tom Hanks as the protagonist.  This fellow finds himself marooned on an Island after his plane crashes and he pretty much has to survive on and entertain himself with debris from the crash. One of the major highlights of the movie is when Tom Hanks makes a Volleyball his best friend. The brand of the Volleyball is Wilson and that naturally becomes its/his name. Understandably, being alone on an Island can be quite difficult and very emotionally taxing. Your mind would be tested and companionship would be integral to survival…

Stay with me folks… This is the part we put everything together. So after a few months of struggling, endless conversations with Wilson and a suicide attempt , Tom Hanks manages to build a raft and float to some help with Wilson on board. These two are now fully fledged BFF’s (Best Friends Forever)… This emotional and personal journey continues for Tom Hanks thanks to the companionship of Wilson.

He  grows as a person and that is just a living testament to what the right kind of companion will do to a man/woman . There is no limit to the growth that may be  when you have the right support system. Wilson was just a Volleyball stuffed with some straw and a smiley face painted on it.


SPOILER ALERT: The twosome manage to build a raft and venture off to find civilization after 4 years of waiting on the Island. While they are floating away , Wilson drifts off.

This part of the blog now talks about the effect that losing a “Wilson” in your life will have on you. Tom Hanks cried… and cried…uncontrollably wept and you could see the pain on-screen as Wilson floated off. He was torn between swimming after him,losing the raft,being with Wilson again but drowning or  staying on the raft,surviving but losing Wilson.


And behold, the Wilson Theory…. Who is your Wilson? Does your Wilson help you grow? Would you be willing to part ways with your Wilson in order to save yourself?

Oh and before I forget to mention. My Marathon training is coming along well. Did my first 20 km last week and I didn’t die. TWO OCEANS MARATHON

Good Day to you all…

7 Things …

Happy New Year to all. It has been a fair bit since I blogged. I was kind of waiting for the Mayan Calendar to deliver but alas. They postponed our impending apocalyptic doom. The doomsday passed and I found myself facing the harsh reality of life and the traditional January excruciating financial ineptness induced by excessive holiday splurging… That aside, I wish to draw your attention to 7 things I am grateful for right now. This very moment in my life.

  1. My Family- I would not be the man I am if it were not for the advice and unwavering support my family has given me over the years. Family first always.

  2. The Pursuit – The hunger inside to always want to better myself. Whether its academically ,financially, emotionally or career-wise. The passion and desire is alive and well.

  3. Friends- They know who they are. Old and new. Lifting up, laughing, celebrating, calling up, planning, inviting, conversing, showing up. The greatest gift I have received this past year is the recognition of how very important friends are in enriching my daily life. I have no idea why it took me 27 years to get that straight in my noodle.

  4. Music- Defying all the laws of harmony . Beauty may boast of her eyes and her cheeks but music brings joy to the heart and soul when she sings. A form of escapism, a new world of opportunity and just sheer joy. I am grateful for music and the role she plays in my life. Music…

  5. Poetry. In my many hours of reading and never-ending quest to understand myself, I found this amazing piece of poetry.

  6. Witnessing bravery- In the last 6 months alone I’ve been privileged to witness two friends demonstrate big time courage in their lives. Taking chances, moving forward, stepping outside their comfort zone, making things happen. HOLY MATRIMONY. I wish that for all of us – to see it and to live it.

  7. Growth- Being able to write my dreams and make them reality as each day comes. To fearlessly pursue happiness and blossom into a man I can proudly face in the mirror. To be able to love wholeheartedly and unconditionally is a blessing from the heavens. To be of sound and able mind and to allow myself to feel and not worry about not understanding why. To just feel.

I really do wish you all a very successful New year. “If you can dream it, you can create it”



Social Networking Pet-peeves


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Social Media and the  DOUCHEBAGERRY that comes with it has managed to influence my new post. How many times do you honestly read something on bbm, twitter or facebook and just feel like punching someone in the armpit ( Well not really but a heightened sense of displeasure). Undergraduate and High school twitter and facebook are filled with status updates of the most happening Pop song, crushes on some actor who plays a Vampire in a high-end suburb or tonnes of pictures in nightclubs.



Post-grad Facebook, meanwhile, is a wasteland of baby pictures, puppy pictures, statuses about getting to eat cake at work, pictures of food that people cooked themselves for dinner, etc.

The truth is I actually DO NOT CARE about what food you made or how amazing the scallops  are at your favourite restaurant. This new found passion for food is what leads to a massive weight gain that works in tandem with the inevitable slow down in metabolism. If we are real friends, we should actually tell each other the truth. E.g “Wow you’ve gotten big! All that food you’ve been taking pictures of must be delicious!”

3. Tweet about food

All these social networking injustices have led me to compile a list of things I feel we should refrain from doing. 



My TOP 5 Social Networking DON’TS… (yes, with actual examples)

1.    The person whose love life is better than anyone’s in the history of being in love EVER!!

This thing of flooding our newsfeeds, timelines and bbm updates with how in love you are with your better half has to stop. I am all for you expressing your love and becoming a better person because of the influence of your partner but BY GEORGE MAN!!!!! ENOUGH IS ENOUGH !!!

Its only been 30 minutes and I miss you already. 

2. The Guy Who is Really Optimistic But Totally Shouldn’t Be.

This guy has several useless degrees (and presumably a mountain of debt), is thirty, single, and until about five months ago was a team leader at a call center. I’m not against being optimistic, in fact I despise pessimists, but man does this guy’s Facebook just scream, “I SWEAR TO GOD I’M HAPPY AND WILL CONVINCE YOU AND IN THE PROCESS MYSELF OF SUCH.” There are about six of those a day. But who knows, maybe I’m just an asshole (okay I am).


The big 3-0 tomorrow has me feeling very reflective. I wish I had done more with my 20′s.


3. The Angry female who hides behind neo feminism but just can’t seem to get married.

There is a fine line between feminism and being a wet blanket for everyone. We honestly are tired of reading your views of how a man should  treat a woman and how you wouldn’t tolerate that if you were her. You are not her and you don’t have him. Mixes all that stuff with motivational tweets about uplifting the female race and lord knows what else you want to achieve. This kid of person probably needs to meet person 2 on the list and have little emo/gothic kids that will end up shooting up a highschool .

4. Formerly Hot Girl Who Got Married, Put on Some Weight, and Will in All Likelihood be Wrecked Forever by  Her First Baby but still believes she still got it.

People keep telling me I look great today, but I’m so fat!” “This picture of me is horrible, but thanks for all the compliments!


5. The Bloke who thinks he has been to every part of the world.

This is probably the worst person on the internet. They feel the urge to let  everyone know how they can afford to be on a plane every so often. Most likely the same person who wants to let us all know how well off they are and how they pay an extra couple of cents for coffee because they can. 


I’d be lying if I said that these people don’t entertain me though. It’s not a good sort of entertainment, don’t get me wrong, it’s very much a sad and guilty one. But entertainment nonetheless. So tweet, facebook, instagram and bbm away. Their lack of self-awareness or their transparent attempts at wanting to be interesting/have something to say is exactly the reason why I am blogging. So thank you!!!

Over n’ Out.

My Bucketlist…


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In most cases, a bucket-list is associated with a terminal illness of some sort which works in tandem with a  tear jerking traumatic experience suffered in one’s childhood. Well, this blog will have no such thing as I am just making a bucket-list because I can and because it is my blog.

Essentially, the bucket-list is meant to represent a list of goals to achieve before your untimely demise or before you kick the bucket…pun intended. It’s a glorified to-do-list. It’s just like planning ahead all the highlights you want for YOUR whole life. :D Even though goal setting is already my staple activity, I still found many new things to do while I was carefully scripting my bucket list. It has been an incredibly insightful exercise. What’s even more ah-mah-zing, coming up with my bucket list gave me a whole new layer of enthusiasm knowing what’s in store ahead! Most people  will actually give this a lot of thought and put it in categories like Travel, Adventure, Social, Creative etc. I being the superhero that I am will follow no norm. I shall aptly categorize mine as TRAVEL and SUPERHERO SHIT ….  stuff….

Superhero Stuff

  • Get my PhD before 30….
  • Explore the Nile….
  •  Climb Mt Everest
  •  Visit every country in the World…
  •  Dive in the Red Sea…
  •  Visit Easter Island twice…
  •  Sleep in a castle…
  • Run  ONE marathon before 30.
  • Compete at the Olympics as a mortal…
  • Sky dive on my 30th birthday.


Sunset at the Coast and the Island of Zanzibar…

  • Zanzibar.

The beautiful Seychelles Islands…..

  • Get absolutely tipsy in the Seychelles Islands.
  • South of France.
  • Hit Golf Balls off the Brooklyn Bridge.

Need I say more… The Great East River conquered by the mighty Brooklyn Bridge

  • Play a solid 18 Holes at St Andrews Golf course.

The Club House at the oldest and best Golf course in the world….

  • Old Trafford.
  • Pounding Grape hard in Venice.

Pounding grape hard in Venice

This is my official bucketlist.

“Every man dies – Not every man really lives.” ~ William Ross

“The only people who fear death are those with regrets.” ~ Author Unknown

If you don’t have a bucket list, I highly recommend you to create one. How much does it cost? ZERO. How long does it take? Probably 30 minutes to an hour, or more if you get really caught up in the writing.

Over n’ Out….

A Letter To My Unborn Son…


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Dear Son,

A Moment like this ….

To share a moment like this….

To be in love and share a moment like this.

To let go of all worldly woes and embrace the feelings that come with sharing a moment like this….

The mind and heart can stop all time and store a moment like this.

La Chaim to all that are blessed enough to have a partner you can share a moment like this with.

Hold onto that moment because as fate would have it, time waits for nobody and before you know it..

So what would you give….Just for one more moment.

Hold on and never ever let go of the moment… Very seldom do you get to experience everything falling into place for a moment like this…

Victoria Falls Safari Lodge

Your loving father…



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Let me tell you about my day
Its such a very long day
It started around 7
And I can hear her pray 
That is why I love Sunday mornings
even when it was cold
There Always something burning 
That was good for my soul
As I walk through the yard
I can feel your presence
Giving me the time of my life 
and showering me with life’s lessons
Now I know what they mean 
when they say keep your head to sky
And Don’t be to quick to fit in
and don’t feel you have to try
This road is strange so strange it is 
you know it really hurts inside sometimes (sometimes)
No matter how good you are to people you know
theyill make you cry sometimes (sometimes)
I am so proud people see the young man I came to be
With lifelong struggles you kept a smile on my face
And as I am looking all around me 
I say how can I ever repay you?
Mama was worth more than gold
And She always tried to tell me 
This road is strange so strange so strange my dear
you know it really hurts inside yeah 
No matter how good you are to people you know
theyll make you cry sometimes yeah 

There have been a few days when people truly let me down
And said crucial things just to bring me down
And they will rob beg and cheat just for the own self motives and greed
But I guess it ain’t nothing knew 
Just something I got to go through
This road is strange so strange so strange it s you know it really hurts sometimes 
No matter how good you are to people you know theyll make you cry sometimes  
Now how much more can I take before I shot to kill 
Don’t let them mess with your heart because what you feel is very real
You know it makes me cry sometimes baby 
Yes it does
Out of all the days and all the stories you taught me about it you know it still hurts inside sometimes
I go through life with my hands in the air saying oh Lord help me there whoa it hurts sometimes
It hurts sometimes baby nobody can tell me he better than you 
About these thing I go through it hurt sometimes baby sometimes

Words from the very talented grammy nominated Raphael Saadiq from the single “Sometimes” . I thought these lyrics were fitting for how I felt this Sunday morning. Good music still lives, embrace life and soldier on through all the adversities. Let us not lose focus on what is really important and get swallowed up by the worldly things. Be the very best version of you.